Coming out to parents

[jaya]

Have you come out to the parents and what has it been like? Any advice?

[mislistenalot]

Not yet. I was in a relationship when I was 17 and it was a 2 n half year relationship. I wanted it to last forever and I had planned to tell them if it had sustained. I am planning to tell them soon

[jaya]

I'm waiting to be in a stable relationship one that lasts lifetimes before telling them so I can let them know its about love and finding my soulmate

[sandhya]

I get freaked out thinking about it. I just hope they won't react so badly to it or get used to it with time.

[snow]

I "mentioned" it once when I was younger and got shot down. Hopefully, I find someone special and i'll be able to tell them properly.....can't wait! lol

[chaand122]

my parents know i am gay

[jazle]

I came out (well got found out) about 6 years ago... I think its hard to give advice on this as everyone's parents are different. My parents didn't react the way I thought they would but I think they still expect me to get over it and marry a guy... the shock factor is still there. ...the one thing I will say though is stand your ground and don't back down.

[cas]

I'm out to some family. It's never discussed. My mum has known for about 6/7 years and she still wants me to marry a guy. She finds its disgusting and we can't seem to have a proper discussion about me being gay. I understand it's hard for a parent to understand but I'll always be hoping for the acceptance.
I told my mum when I was with my first girl friend and it went badly. I was fortunate that I was not living with family and had financial independence from them. Personally I think thats a good position to be in if your are going to come out to family.
A good safety net to have your own living place and money as if they react badly they cant lock you indoors or control what you do or where you go.

I agree with Jazle... stand your ground and dont back down. If I were to live the life my mum desires I'd be unbelievably unhappy and may be worse.

[palakpaneer]

I told my mom, because she was constantly nagging for me to get married. I told her that I'm dating women in hopes that she would get off my back. Wrong. It made her pressure me even more, and then she used forms of guilt and anger. She didn't talk to me for 2 weeks, but then came back acting like nothing happened.

I'm jealous, yet impressed, by Desis that have supportive parents. My parents consider themselves very liberal, but they are on the "An Indian woman needs a husband to take care of her" bandwagon.